I found out last night through a local Facebook group that an employee in the transporation department of the school district has tested positive for coronavirus (COV-19) and that schools will be shut down today. I was a bit panicked at first, because my masseuse also works as a bus driver for the school district. I texted her to make sure that she was okay and she is, and says that she doesn’t have much contact with the person who she thinks has it, which is good. Still, David is feeling unsure about me getting a massage next week because of this. My overall feeling on it is that even though I have pre-existing conditions and am an at-risk group, I take plenty of immune support and anti-virals that I should be able to get through a virus like this okay. My main concern is that I don’t want to be quarantined or isolated because of coming into contact with someone who has it, mainly because we have a new puppy to take care of. If I didn’t mention in earlier, Maggie is starting dog training in a week and a half and will be going to a local puppy preschool here in a few weeks. I want to socialize her early so that she eventually will be trained enough to be my service dog. It’s very important that we start with this now. I’m really hoping that the coronavirus outbreak doesn’t stop my plans to bring her around other dogs and get her privately trained. I know of some dog facilities in the area that are closed this week due to coronavirus concerns, but the one that we’re working with is not. Still, there’s always the chance that in the next couple of weeks things could change. If it does, I might have to see if any of the neighborhood dogs are fully vaccinated and can have play dates with her.
The other thing that worries me about Covid 19 and a quarantine is Patrick’s condition. He is on a lot of medications due to having cancer, and needs to be able to get to appointments as needed. I worry that during a quarantine it would be hard to get his and my medications and to our appointments. I also worry more about him getting this virus than me or David because he’s the sickest one in the house.
In other news, I recently had someone ask me what I do for recovery if I don’t go to AA. I told the person on my blog that I choose not to drink. If you don’t already know it, here’s the actual low down on AA. The success rate of AA is the same as the success rate of people quitting on their own: about 5-10 percent. Thus, when I say that I choose not to drink, I’m simply one of those 5-10 percent that stop and stay stopped on their own. There are a variety of other recovery methods that have just as high if not higher success rates than 12 step groups: refuge recovery, SMART recovery, Women For Sobriety, Celebrate Recovery, Moderation Management, Harm Reduction, and others. All of these match AA’s success rate. Plus, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Mindfulness Medititation when used in a therapeutic setting have been found to have upwards of 70% success rates, meaning that these individual therapies show a lot of promise when it comes to substance use disorders. Other methods that may show higher success rates than AA are the Freedom Method and Sinclair Method, although I don’t know of the exact rates for these.
The truth is that if you go to AA, or know someone in AA, you likely have been brainwashed to think that AA is the only and best way to get sober. The truth is that it is not. I remember that there was a study done where AA ranked pretty low in comparison to other recovery methods. In addition, as I said before, the success rate is no higher than if someone stops on his or her own. It’s really not that effective of a program, but when you are in it different tactics are used to convince you that it is. I could go into those tactics but that is a very long post. If you’re interested in them I recommend reading the Orange Papers, joining some of the deprogramming groups on Facebook, going to the leavingaa site by Monica Richardson, or just doing your own research. What I will tell you is that when you hear something over and over again, it can become truth to you even if it isn’t. The other thing is that you never hear from the people who left AA and were successful because they have no reason to come back and tell you. You only hear from the ones who come back with sob stories, thus skewing everyone’s perception about what happens after you leave AA.
The truth is that many people leave AA and go on to lead full lives with or without drinking. Some people find that after deprogramming from it’s harmful idea that an alcoholic will always binge drink that he or she can drink moderately or socially again with the help of therapy, support groups (non-12 step), or moderation management groups. Others do not drink again. For me, even though I don’t drink, I do not consider myself in recovery or even sober, simply because those phrases come from AA and I do not like or want to associate myself with 12 step philosophy in any way. I do not like 12 step groups. I simply am a non-drinker by choice.
Hopefully this clears some things up for some of my readers. This is not a pro-AA or recovery blog. This is just a blog about me, my life, and things that interest me.
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