This list is a dis/parody on the AA movement, but it also can apply to a lot of different trains of thought that basically overuse positive psychology and religion. Although a lot of these signs sound like they are healthy, if they are used in certain ways or contexts they can actually be quite unhealthy and basically result in a flight from reality. Read on if you dare, and feel free to add any “signs” that you’ve seen of the false/fake happiness/”healthiness” that we see in AA and the real world too in the comments below.
- You write excessive amounts of gratitude lists, count your blessings excessively, and/or try to stay grateful or thankful while completely overlooking the negative or unpleasant aspects of your life.
- You pray, meditate, or participate in some kind of spiritual practice constantly yet you do not take any actual actions outside of these “practices” to address the problems that you have in your life.
- You constantly talk about how great or blessed your life is and omit to yourself and others the hardships that you have or have had in your life
- You constantly talk about and over-exaggerate how wonderful your family and/or friends are, even if they’re not wonderful at all. But you really think that they are!
- While you don’t necessarily complain about other people, you do constantly give your opinion about what they should do to make their lives better, particularly if the person has some kind of issue going on in their lives. And, you might do this to their face or behind their back.
- If you do talk about your problems, you always talk about them in a way that either makes light of them (the use of laughter to dismiss the actual reality of the situation), or try to find some sort of positive in the situation to the extent that you ignore reality. This puts you in a kind of fantasy world where you are unable to fully accept and understand your own life.
- You constantly post pictures on social media about your family and friends and how supportive they are, even if they are not.
- You hang onto labels and overly associate yourself and others with whatever diseases or health issues that you and they might have
- You try to be positive all of the time, and constantly try to change your negative thought patterns before you’ve even had a chance to fully listen to them/practice mindfulness/digest and understand them. This means that in essence all you are ignoring yourself quite a bit by ignoring and dismissing what you perceive as negative thoughts and replacing them with “better ones”.
- You brag all of the time about your achievements throughout life (including things like sobriety or motherhood), and don’t notice when other people don’t want to hear about it anymore.
- You either monopolize the majority of the conversations that you are in or you listen attentively and smile even if the subject matter is completely boring (and part of you knows it). Each time you smile and nod during horrific conversations you lose a little more of your soul.
- You feel like you have a right to share your opinions about everyone else around you, but get upset when people share their opinions about you.
- You always feel happy and for some strange reason never feel sad or angry anymore…. and you don’t stop to think about whether or not this is a good or bad thing. You immediately assume it’s a good thing.
- You listen to the advice of others over your own intuition, even though you don’t like hearing criticism and this practice makes you uncomfortable.
- You pray for people instead of actually helping them or even talking to them about whatever problems they might have…. in other words, you use prayer to avoid situations.
If any of these sound like you, you might want to think about your life and your place in it.
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