David and I had a talk about what it means to be a housewife. I told him that I have concerns over this term and how it applies to my life but at the same time want to make sure that I contribute to the household. A lot of the time David picks up chores or runs errand when I have an EBV flare.
In response to my concerns, David told me to think about myself instead as the house manager. He pointed out that even though he is helping with these things, I am the one who does all of the planning and coordinating of the household. I thought about this and realized that I was right. I also am the one who coordinates our weekend plans, sets up things like vacations, and makes sure that we have a social life. I really hadn’t considered how much energy and effort it takes to keep up our household, especially when you take into account the planning that it takes for my specialized diet and taking care of cats with special needs. In fact, Patrick, Lucy and I have about thirty prescriptions and supplements overall that David and I have to keep track of.
I’ve heard from other women, both from those who work and those who don’t, that this situation is pretty typical. Much of the time women are the ones who delegate the responsibilities of the house and manage it. So even though I may have a lot on my plate when it comes to managing our household, my situation is not uncommon.
If you’re a woman, do you find yourself that you are the actual manager of the house? Or do you share this responsibility with others? Let me know in the comments!